China Bound!
Yes we are! Flights are booked, hotels are booked, and we are beyond excited (and incredibly nervous). We are leaving on October 10, flying our to Chicago. Flying in to HongKong, where we will stay over night, and take the train the next day to Guangzhou. We will meet our boys on October 13! All the paperwork takes place the next day, the consulate appointment is the 20th, and we will be back home on the 22nd.
My mind is racing.....so many things to do, to get ready. So many arrangements to make for the kids who will be staying home with big sister, Brogan, and my grandson Landon. Everyday I think of something else I need to do or prepare. But I am blessed that so many of my family and friends are pitching in to help out. My biggest concern is leaving Daley for so long. But, she is stable right now, and outside of having too many seizures, she is pretty predictable.
Lord, thank you! Thank you that after praying for these boys for almost TWO YEARS, that we are so close to making them ours! Thank you for providing the finances necessary, and the helpers who are pitching in as needed. Please calm our nerves, help us think clearly, and bless and protect our flight, our trip, and our children, who will be waiting at home. And please prepare our hearts to be parents again, and Wen and Wu's hearts, to become a permanent part of our family! You are an awesome God! Amen!
"There is NO higher calling in life than raising the children God has entrusted to our care." This blogspot chronicles the life and times of my amazing family, my relationship with Jesus Christ, and adoption advocacy, which is my passion.
Thursday, September 25, 2014
Tuesday, September 16, 2014
Waiting (not so patiently) for TRAVEL APPROVAL!
China is getting closer and closer! Yesterday we got notice that our Article 5 was picked up, and delivered to CCCWA. Now we wait on Travel Approval, which generally takes 1-3 weeks. Although 2 families have gotten theirs in less than a week recently! The timing is bad, unfortunately. All of China is closed for a holiday Oct 1-8. And beginning Oct 15, there is a trade show in the province we are going, which will drive all of the hotel and restaurant prices UP. But we don't even care at this point! We will go to get the boys the minute we are able to! Hoping to leave for China Oct 11, Gotcha day on Oct 13. Prayers please!
For anyone wanting to follow our journey to bring home Wen and Wu, we will probably be posting most information and photos on the boys FB page. Just search for "Always Room for More". I am trying my best to keep that site updated.
Everything else is good here! Six Flags roast has finally died down somewhat. Kids are doing well in school. Dale is loving his new job. Brian is doing well at Hoyleton.
Here are some new pics to enjoy!
For anyone wanting to follow our journey to bring home Wen and Wu, we will probably be posting most information and photos on the boys FB page. Just search for "Always Room for More". I am trying my best to keep that site updated.
Everything else is good here! Six Flags roast has finally died down somewhat. Kids are doing well in school. Dale is loving his new job. Brian is doing well at Hoyleton.
Here are some new pics to enjoy!
The gang, visiting Brian!
Daley Faith, enjoying her new bed!
Keagan, Bailey (his honey-pie) and Timothy
Happy 14th Bday Bronwyn~
Britt and Brianna's volleyball team!
Tuesday, September 2, 2014
UGH...
Well, my blog is now private. We have officially filed an American with Disabilities Act lawsuit against Six Flags, on behalf of Rory. Flip back to the 2012 Momma Bear post, if you don't know what this is all about. We are the 4th suit to be filed against Six Flags for the same reason....discrimination against children and adults with hand/leg differences. Well, our attorney warned us about the press, and boy was he right. We have been completely roasted in the press. People automatically assume the worst. That I am a terrible mother, with too many kids, who is looking for free money. This could not be further from the truth. And to make matters worse, in the first Chicago Sun Times article, the reporter printed my private blog info as well as Rory's FB page info. So....to keep from being ripped up on my very own private media spots, I have closed them.
Anyone who takes 5 minutes to research, with find out that ADA suits can ask for legal and filing fees only. We can only ask for damages (which we would not) in a private suit. An ADA suit is basically for policy change, and for equal treatment for people with disabilities.
I cannot even go online, to read the posts from readers. They are SO mean. SO hurtful. I guess I am pretty naive, because I sure didn't expect so much hate. I have to keep reminding myself that this is SO small compared to what Jesus endured. But it is still pretty hard.
So....in the meantime, I am keeping very busy. Putting the kids in school has been good, but OMGOSH, so much time is gone! School til 3:30, then sports til 6, then homework til bedtime. I miss them! We literally went from spending ALL day together, to barely having any fun time together! Hoping we get used to it, and that their days begin to run more smooth, so we have more time together. They are really liking it, though! And it is such a weird feeling only homeschooling 3! Wow, it has been a while!
News on Wen and Wu.....our DS-260 has been filed, and we are waiting on Article 5 pick up. And then Travel Approval. We are being told we should travel by October 1, but most timelines I am looking at seem to be a little longer. Regardless, we are READY! I cannot wait to love on those boys!
Enjoy some new pics!
Anyone who takes 5 minutes to research, with find out that ADA suits can ask for legal and filing fees only. We can only ask for damages (which we would not) in a private suit. An ADA suit is basically for policy change, and for equal treatment for people with disabilities.
I cannot even go online, to read the posts from readers. They are SO mean. SO hurtful. I guess I am pretty naive, because I sure didn't expect so much hate. I have to keep reminding myself that this is SO small compared to what Jesus endured. But it is still pretty hard.
So....in the meantime, I am keeping very busy. Putting the kids in school has been good, but OMGOSH, so much time is gone! School til 3:30, then sports til 6, then homework til bedtime. I miss them! We literally went from spending ALL day together, to barely having any fun time together! Hoping we get used to it, and that their days begin to run more smooth, so we have more time together. They are really liking it, though! And it is such a weird feeling only homeschooling 3! Wow, it has been a while!
News on Wen and Wu.....our DS-260 has been filed, and we are waiting on Article 5 pick up. And then Travel Approval. We are being told we should travel by October 1, but most timelines I am looking at seem to be a little longer. Regardless, we are READY! I cannot wait to love on those boys!
Enjoy some new pics!
A GREAT new photo of my honeys!
Arent't these Ts adorable? For Daley and the twins
Keagan's first football game. He is number 10
Me and my dear friend Darcy, in a 5K we ran to benefit my nephew David, who is battling cancer
Shunnichi's last evening with us. He made us a great Japanese dinner
Sunday, August 17, 2014
A little step closer to China
Well, we have our Provisional Approval to bring the boys home now! This means we are literally less than 2 months from bringing them home. We are waiting on a few last things to happen in the process, and then we will need to apply for both our visas and the boys' visas. I cannot believe it is SO close! I have little by little been gathering things they need. I think all that is left is carseats. And of course, some more toys! Also waiting for a new video of them. We sent them a photo book of our family, as well as a cake and some toys. Any day now I should be getting the video of them, when they see our photos for the first time!!!
We have 2 families from our church, who will be heading to China in the next few weeks, to bring their daughters home. I am SO excited for them! One is a Beta Thal gal, like my Mengy, and the other has a mild form of dwarfism. They are both beautiful! And 2 other church friends in process from China, including my sister and her family......working hard to get Shazhou home quickly!!!
Brian is settled in at Hoyleton Ministry Residential Home. He most recently got very upset with me over a conversation in which he told me I needed to come get him. He began that all too familiar yelling and accusing, and immediately my stomach began to churn. I do help this facility can help him control his rages, either through medication or through behavioral therapy. Please keep praying for him. We hope to visit him in the next few weeks, but only if his conversations are a little less aggressive.
We have been fun winding down our summer. We went to the state fair, bought all of our school supplies, and have been taking Shunnishi souvenir shopping before he heads back to Japan in just a few days. Meng had her surgery to replace her port. There were some complications, and it was a little rough, but she is a trooper, and is recovering well! Dale is really liking his new job. It is SO nice to have him so close to home! He is able to have lunch with us several days a week.
Well, to close, I want to do something I used to do, years ago, in my prayer journal. Basically, list prayer requests and praises. You don't have to read them if you don't want to, they are basically reminders for me....and a cool way to follow later and see how God has worked! Blessings friends!
Praises: Prov. App for the boys! Travel so close for Browns and Powells, kids ready for school!, Mengs surgery is over, Daley has been so happy and healthy, a nurse that prays over Daley and truly loves her, Dale's new job, Patrick's new job, my kids sports involvement in their new school, friendly families are the kids' new school, my wonderful church family and friends, our new basketball court
Prayers: Celia Bethard family (she recently passed) , Preparation for our heart and our boys', Finances to complete the adoption and to afford private school for the teens, Patrick's heart and future, Brogan and Zachary - job opportunities closer to home, David Joel, Anita, and Todd-battling cancer, Greg Scott-mother recently passed, Pierson's-need PA for Shazhou!
We have 2 families from our church, who will be heading to China in the next few weeks, to bring their daughters home. I am SO excited for them! One is a Beta Thal gal, like my Mengy, and the other has a mild form of dwarfism. They are both beautiful! And 2 other church friends in process from China, including my sister and her family......working hard to get Shazhou home quickly!!!
Brian is settled in at Hoyleton Ministry Residential Home. He most recently got very upset with me over a conversation in which he told me I needed to come get him. He began that all too familiar yelling and accusing, and immediately my stomach began to churn. I do help this facility can help him control his rages, either through medication or through behavioral therapy. Please keep praying for him. We hope to visit him in the next few weeks, but only if his conversations are a little less aggressive.
We have been fun winding down our summer. We went to the state fair, bought all of our school supplies, and have been taking Shunnishi souvenir shopping before he heads back to Japan in just a few days. Meng had her surgery to replace her port. There were some complications, and it was a little rough, but she is a trooper, and is recovering well! Dale is really liking his new job. It is SO nice to have him so close to home! He is able to have lunch with us several days a week.
Well, to close, I want to do something I used to do, years ago, in my prayer journal. Basically, list prayer requests and praises. You don't have to read them if you don't want to, they are basically reminders for me....and a cool way to follow later and see how God has worked! Blessings friends!
Praises: Prov. App for the boys! Travel so close for Browns and Powells, kids ready for school!, Mengs surgery is over, Daley has been so happy and healthy, a nurse that prays over Daley and truly loves her, Dale's new job, Patrick's new job, my kids sports involvement in their new school, friendly families are the kids' new school, my wonderful church family and friends, our new basketball court
Prayers: Celia Bethard family (she recently passed) , Preparation for our heart and our boys', Finances to complete the adoption and to afford private school for the teens, Patrick's heart and future, Brogan and Zachary - job opportunities closer to home, David Joel, Anita, and Todd-battling cancer, Greg Scott-mother recently passed, Pierson's-need PA for Shazhou!
Monday, August 4, 2014
Children here in IL needing a family! And an update on my crazy family!
Hello friends! So, have you felt that tug on your heart to adopt, but haven't quite felt like jumping on a plane and spending insane amounts of money to do so? Well, here is your chance to be a family to some little boys who desperately need one!
Situation #1: A 5 year old bi-racial boy, whose mother has passed away. He has been living with an aunt, but she wants to find him an adoptive family. He had some prenatal alcohol exposure, and has had several years of physical therapy and speech therapy, but his SW says he is 95% on target. He will start kindergarten this month, and is happy and healthy. Very reasonable fees and immediate placement possible.
Situation #2: 7 and 10 year old brothers, who need to stay together. Both are happy and healthy, will be in 2nd and 4th grade. Their birthmother suffers from some mental illness/anxiety and no longer wants to parent. They are staying with a grandfather, but need immediate placement. Again, reasonable fees. These boys would qualify for a non-ward subsidy, which would give them a medical card and a monthly stipend to help with their expenses.
Please contact me if you are interested in either of these situations!!!
Ok, news on us. We had an amazing visit with Bronwyn's birth brother, Brandon and his family. Also had the opportunity to meet her Uncle Jerome. They are awesome people, and we are blessed to have them as a part of our extended family! Hoping to see them again this fall!
Situation #1: A 5 year old bi-racial boy, whose mother has passed away. He has been living with an aunt, but she wants to find him an adoptive family. He had some prenatal alcohol exposure, and has had several years of physical therapy and speech therapy, but his SW says he is 95% on target. He will start kindergarten this month, and is happy and healthy. Very reasonable fees and immediate placement possible.
Situation #2: 7 and 10 year old brothers, who need to stay together. Both are happy and healthy, will be in 2nd and 4th grade. Their birthmother suffers from some mental illness/anxiety and no longer wants to parent. They are staying with a grandfather, but need immediate placement. Again, reasonable fees. These boys would qualify for a non-ward subsidy, which would give them a medical card and a monthly stipend to help with their expenses.
Please contact me if you are interested in either of these situations!!!
Ok, news on us. We had an amazing visit with Bronwyn's birth brother, Brandon and his family. Also had the opportunity to meet her Uncle Jerome. They are awesome people, and we are blessed to have them as a part of our extended family! Hoping to see them again this fall!
Exciting news about my sister and her family.....they have decided to pursue adopting Shazhou!!!! I cannot tell you how much this news blesses me! He is a wonderful little man, and he seems to fit right into their family. He had to go back to China last week, but they are working hard on their paperwork, and hope to have him home permanently by spring. Don't they look great together!
We have very good news about our situation with Brian. First of all, our charges have been dropped. Praise God! This news is like a million pounds being lifted off of us. And more good news is that he was accepted into Hoyleton Ministries Residential Program, which is a great placement, and only about 2 hours from home. Bad news is that his aggression continues to be a huge issue. Please help us continue to pray for his mental health.
While we were in Chicago, we had the awesome opportunity to visit my "kinda of sort of son", Chris Bradham. He has been a wonderful part of our lives for many years. He recently had some reconstructive surgery on his leg/hip, and is in a rehab hospital in Chicago. We had a very fun visit with him. He is just as crazy as ever!
Other news.....we have Shunnichi here visiting us from Japan. He is our 6th Japanese student to stay with us, through the Labo/Lex program. He is extremely polite and kind. Hope we are not driving him crazy! LOL
Other kids are well, getting ready for school to start. My curriculum is bought and waiting. Bought the teens supplies tonight and their official registration is Thursday. They are excited/nervous about this new adventure called DECATUR CHRISTIAN SCHOOL. They are gonna do great!
God bless you all!
Oops, I almost forgot! I just completed the Decatur to Peoria St. Jude Run! I didn't die! It was actually a lot of fun, and so touching. We stayed for the ceremony this year, and got to meet and greet lots of St Jude kiddos and their families. It was awesome. I am gonna run it again next year, and then my goal for the following year (my 50th bday) is to run on the Memphis to Peoria team!
Tuesday, July 29, 2014
In our hands!
Yep, our LOA from China arrived today! Countdown to China has begun! It finally seems real! And now I have to wrap my head around being a mom again.....to two three year olds! EEK!
Friday, July 25, 2014
Meng's Blown Port, our REAL LOA (and new W&W pics), and a Brian update!
Hey folks!
Lots of craziness going on here, a usual. Meng, Rory and I just got back from Memphis TN, where Meng had her 6 month check up at St. Jude Children's Research Hospital. We have been having lots of trouble with her port these past few months. Yesterday we discovered why....there was a small kink in it, and after trying carefully to straighten it out with a few ml's of saline, the nurse accidentally blew a hole in it! OUCH! Meng flipped out (yes, it was painful), and now.....she has to have surgery to remove the blown port and replace it. Not a major surgery, but still one more thing to add to my list! And....Peoria wants Memphis to do the surgery, so we will be heading back in August to have the port replaced. But...despite that unpleasantness, Memphis was great! We went with some friends, who introduced us to some local authentic BBQ and some amazing pizza! We had a good time. But now we are tired! LOL
Well, you may remember that I was SO excited to announce that we got the boy's LOA?!?! Well, the agency director had us confused with another family. How disappointing to find out she was wrong! But....TODAY WE GOT OUR REAL LOA! So, we can celebrate all over again! LOL With as busy as things have been, it didn't seem like to much extra time to wait.....and we still got it in less than 60 days, when many folks are waiting 90 or 100! God is good, his timing is perfect! We should still travel by early fall.
Brian news. Well, as crazy as this sounds, I just made a DCFS hotline call to turn DCFS in for child abuse! Really! He has been in a facility called Aunt Martha's ever since our dependency hearing at the beginning of the month. We have been able to talk with him, check on him, and be involved in his care. Little by little he began to have some aggression issues, especially over this past week. And then yesterday, I am told he snapped. Injured several staff and patients, and damaged office equipment. He was SASS screened, and taken to a psych hospital in Chicago. Today, I called to check on him and talk to him, and I was told that they could not speak to me, since he was a state ward. I spent the day (while driving home from Memphis) calling every social worker involved in his care, but not a single one ever called me back. The hospital absolutely refuses to talk to me, or to allow me to talk to Brian. So, I called DCFS to report that my son was not being allowed to speak to me, or for me to able to check on him. Their response? Wait til Monday and they will get a social worker to permit the hospital to talk to me. Crazy. I know Brian. After he rages, he is scared. He is alone. He needs to hear a familiar voice, and we were hoping to visit him this Sunday. But......they seem to know what is best for him, so none of those things are allowed. It is truly a broken system, and one that does NOT have the best interest of the child at heart. We were promised by DCFS and the judge in our case, that we would be involved in every aspect of Brian's care. Not true. Even though we retained our parental rights, we basically have none. So, once again, I place Brian in God's hands, and ask God to comfort him, and bring him peace. I know He will. And I ask Him to give me peace also!
Gotta go. Busy weekend! We have Shunnishi here visiting from Japan, we are heading to Chicago tomorrow to visit Bronwyn's birth family, and to visit Chris B, who just had surgery. Then heading to St. Louis on Monday, to take Daley to a seizure specialist. Always busy, but loving my busy life and my beautiful family!!!
Enjoy these amazing new pics of my boys! I cannot wait to hug them!
Lots of craziness going on here, a usual. Meng, Rory and I just got back from Memphis TN, where Meng had her 6 month check up at St. Jude Children's Research Hospital. We have been having lots of trouble with her port these past few months. Yesterday we discovered why....there was a small kink in it, and after trying carefully to straighten it out with a few ml's of saline, the nurse accidentally blew a hole in it! OUCH! Meng flipped out (yes, it was painful), and now.....she has to have surgery to remove the blown port and replace it. Not a major surgery, but still one more thing to add to my list! And....Peoria wants Memphis to do the surgery, so we will be heading back in August to have the port replaced. But...despite that unpleasantness, Memphis was great! We went with some friends, who introduced us to some local authentic BBQ and some amazing pizza! We had a good time. But now we are tired! LOL
Well, you may remember that I was SO excited to announce that we got the boy's LOA?!?! Well, the agency director had us confused with another family. How disappointing to find out she was wrong! But....TODAY WE GOT OUR REAL LOA! So, we can celebrate all over again! LOL With as busy as things have been, it didn't seem like to much extra time to wait.....and we still got it in less than 60 days, when many folks are waiting 90 or 100! God is good, his timing is perfect! We should still travel by early fall.
Brian news. Well, as crazy as this sounds, I just made a DCFS hotline call to turn DCFS in for child abuse! Really! He has been in a facility called Aunt Martha's ever since our dependency hearing at the beginning of the month. We have been able to talk with him, check on him, and be involved in his care. Little by little he began to have some aggression issues, especially over this past week. And then yesterday, I am told he snapped. Injured several staff and patients, and damaged office equipment. He was SASS screened, and taken to a psych hospital in Chicago. Today, I called to check on him and talk to him, and I was told that they could not speak to me, since he was a state ward. I spent the day (while driving home from Memphis) calling every social worker involved in his care, but not a single one ever called me back. The hospital absolutely refuses to talk to me, or to allow me to talk to Brian. So, I called DCFS to report that my son was not being allowed to speak to me, or for me to able to check on him. Their response? Wait til Monday and they will get a social worker to permit the hospital to talk to me. Crazy. I know Brian. After he rages, he is scared. He is alone. He needs to hear a familiar voice, and we were hoping to visit him this Sunday. But......they seem to know what is best for him, so none of those things are allowed. It is truly a broken system, and one that does NOT have the best interest of the child at heart. We were promised by DCFS and the judge in our case, that we would be involved in every aspect of Brian's care. Not true. Even though we retained our parental rights, we basically have none. So, once again, I place Brian in God's hands, and ask God to comfort him, and bring him peace. I know He will. And I ask Him to give me peace also!
Gotta go. Busy weekend! We have Shunnishi here visiting from Japan, we are heading to Chicago tomorrow to visit Bronwyn's birth family, and to visit Chris B, who just had surgery. Then heading to St. Louis on Monday, to take Daley to a seizure specialist. Always busy, but loving my busy life and my beautiful family!!!
Enjoy these amazing new pics of my boys! I cannot wait to hug them!
Saturday, July 12, 2014
Boys, we are coming!
I just have a minute, but I had to share! I went to an adoption picnic today, and there was our agency director, who told us she has our Letter of Approval from CHINA! WOOHOOOOOOO
We will be finishing up all of the last paperwork, and should travel in about 8 weeks!
OMGosh! It is real! Thank you Jesus! Cecil LiWen McKinney and Ervin LiWu McKinney,
I cannot wait to meet you!
We will be finishing up all of the last paperwork, and should travel in about 8 weeks!
OMGosh! It is real! Thank you Jesus! Cecil LiWen McKinney and Ervin LiWu McKinney,
I cannot wait to meet you!
Wednesday, July 9, 2014
My quiet week!
Well, this is a very unusual week for me! Brittany is serving with our church on a mission trip in Georgia. Keagan, Bronwyn, and Brianna are at Camp One Way's Teen Retreat. And Tobin, MengYan and Rory are at Camp CoCo, and hem/onc camp in Bloomington. That means I have ONLY Daley Faith at home with me this week! This house is SOOOO quiet! It is kinda weird! It was nice for the first day, now I miss them like crazy! I am working on a list of household projects I am working on completing. Doing good with it so far, but not sure I will complete my list by Friday!
Daley has been a lil stinker lately! She is so darn cute. She is not supposed to have enough brain to have personality, likes/dislikes, etc. But she sure does! Her big thing lately is holding a grudge. She got FURIOUS with me over her bath a few days ago, and when I tried to comfort her afterwards (Yes, she HATES them), she literally took her little hands and pushed my face away from her! So cute! And yesterday I was trying to rub her head and kiss her cheek, but shame on me....I was interrupting her Sesame Street! So, she did it again, literally pushed me away from her! LOL She is becoming just like the other kids, with a lil attitude!
We went to court on Monday, for our situation with Brian. We completed all 5 hearings for his care in one appearance. He is now a state ward, but we were able to maintain our parental rights. We will be a part of his care, his future. We will be able to visit him, call him, and retain our mom/dad relationship with him. And....if he makes drastic improvements, we also have the option of trying to transition him back home. He is currently in a place called Aunt Martha's in Chicago, while they try to find the best residential placement for him. The only stinky news, is that we did not get our charges dropped at this point. This hearing was only for Brian, not our criminal charges. So, we have to go to court again on Aug. 5. If they call our names and announce No Charge afterwards, we go home and it is all over. If they give us a docket number, then we have to hire a lawyer. I am confident we will be OK. DCFS and the Asst State Atty have both asked the court to drop our charges. And....God is in control. As always.
Dale started his new job at DMH this week, and Patrick also started a new job, with MiCar. Dale will be working with Dr. Krause and Dr. Dold in the Neurosurgical dept, and Patrick will be welding and pipefitting at ADM. So good to have both my men working!
I am working hard this week to read through the entire New Testament. Every time I read God's Word, I stumbled across something I don't ever remember reading before. OR perhaps just something I really need to read at that particular time. I am really convicted of LOVE this week. Showing love, sharing love, experiencing love, and loving even when it is hard or I don't want to.
Blessings!!!!!
Daley has been a lil stinker lately! She is so darn cute. She is not supposed to have enough brain to have personality, likes/dislikes, etc. But she sure does! Her big thing lately is holding a grudge. She got FURIOUS with me over her bath a few days ago, and when I tried to comfort her afterwards (Yes, she HATES them), she literally took her little hands and pushed my face away from her! So cute! And yesterday I was trying to rub her head and kiss her cheek, but shame on me....I was interrupting her Sesame Street! So, she did it again, literally pushed me away from her! LOL She is becoming just like the other kids, with a lil attitude!
We went to court on Monday, for our situation with Brian. We completed all 5 hearings for his care in one appearance. He is now a state ward, but we were able to maintain our parental rights. We will be a part of his care, his future. We will be able to visit him, call him, and retain our mom/dad relationship with him. And....if he makes drastic improvements, we also have the option of trying to transition him back home. He is currently in a place called Aunt Martha's in Chicago, while they try to find the best residential placement for him. The only stinky news, is that we did not get our charges dropped at this point. This hearing was only for Brian, not our criminal charges. So, we have to go to court again on Aug. 5. If they call our names and announce No Charge afterwards, we go home and it is all over. If they give us a docket number, then we have to hire a lawyer. I am confident we will be OK. DCFS and the Asst State Atty have both asked the court to drop our charges. And....God is in control. As always.
Dale started his new job at DMH this week, and Patrick also started a new job, with MiCar. Dale will be working with Dr. Krause and Dr. Dold in the Neurosurgical dept, and Patrick will be welding and pipefitting at ADM. So good to have both my men working!
I am working hard this week to read through the entire New Testament. Every time I read God's Word, I stumbled across something I don't ever remember reading before. OR perhaps just something I really need to read at that particular time. I am really convicted of LOVE this week. Showing love, sharing love, experiencing love, and loving even when it is hard or I don't want to.
Blessings!!!!!
This is the amazing lil man my sister is hosting for the month! His name is Shazou, and he is absolutely adorable! I am so hoping they decide to make him a permanent family member! Adoption rocks!
Dale's official name on the office door at DMH. I am so proud of that sweet man!
Saturday, July 5, 2014
Family News
Hello friends,
I wanted to give you all an update, especially on our situation with Brian. It has been a difficult week. On Monday, we met with all of the therapists again, as well as executives from DCFS. By the end of the meeting, they all agreed that we should not bring Brian home, for safety reasons. We all decided that the best road for us to take was to do a DCFS supported "Lock-out", which is basically where we refuse to bring Brian home, once the mental hospital is ready to discharge him. So, that happened on Wednesday. The hospital knew this was our plan, and all people involved did as well. I was able to talk with Brian beforehand, to explain the situation to him.
The downside to a lock-out, is that the police have to be involved. Shortly after the process began, they called, and needed Dale and I to come to the police station, where they arrested us, and charged us with child endangerment/abandonment. We literally sat in this little holding room for 4 hours, while they tried to sort it all out. I am a document/paperwork freak, so this helped us tremendously, as I already had a packet of info prepared for both the police and the DCFS investigator. Brian was in the room across from us, and he was very agitated. We are told he tried to punch on of the officers, he destroyed some security equipment, and he took off his clothing (this is a new one). I know he was just scared.
On Monday, we go to court, to begin the Petition of Dependency process, and to ask that our charges be dropped. I have met with the asst. to the States Atty, and they have assured me that they are asking for charges to be dropped. DCFS is asking for this also, so I am fairly confident we will be ok. Brian is in a temporary placement, at a shelter in Chicago, while they try to find the best residential facility for him. We are NOT giving up our parental rights, we will still be very involved in his care and treatment. We have explained to him, that he is still our son, and we will always be there for him, he just will not live in our home.....just like his sister Brogan who is in NC, or his brother Brandon, who lives with another adoptive family. He seemed to understand this very well, and is ok with this transition.
Whew. In other news......next week will be so weird! My kid are all heading in different directions! Brittany leaves today for a mission trip with our church to Georgia. Tomorrow Rory, Meng and Toby are heading to their favorite summer camp, Camp CoCo! And Monday Keagan, Brianna, and Brownyn are heading to Camp One Way. So.....I will have only Daley at home with me all week!!!! Wow, crazy! Don't worry, I have lots of things planned. Mostly painting and cleaning. And a little date night with Dale as well!
Well, I have to get off this computer and get moving this morning. Thanks for checking in.
God bless!
I wanted to give you all an update, especially on our situation with Brian. It has been a difficult week. On Monday, we met with all of the therapists again, as well as executives from DCFS. By the end of the meeting, they all agreed that we should not bring Brian home, for safety reasons. We all decided that the best road for us to take was to do a DCFS supported "Lock-out", which is basically where we refuse to bring Brian home, once the mental hospital is ready to discharge him. So, that happened on Wednesday. The hospital knew this was our plan, and all people involved did as well. I was able to talk with Brian beforehand, to explain the situation to him.
The downside to a lock-out, is that the police have to be involved. Shortly after the process began, they called, and needed Dale and I to come to the police station, where they arrested us, and charged us with child endangerment/abandonment. We literally sat in this little holding room for 4 hours, while they tried to sort it all out. I am a document/paperwork freak, so this helped us tremendously, as I already had a packet of info prepared for both the police and the DCFS investigator. Brian was in the room across from us, and he was very agitated. We are told he tried to punch on of the officers, he destroyed some security equipment, and he took off his clothing (this is a new one). I know he was just scared.
On Monday, we go to court, to begin the Petition of Dependency process, and to ask that our charges be dropped. I have met with the asst. to the States Atty, and they have assured me that they are asking for charges to be dropped. DCFS is asking for this also, so I am fairly confident we will be ok. Brian is in a temporary placement, at a shelter in Chicago, while they try to find the best residential facility for him. We are NOT giving up our parental rights, we will still be very involved in his care and treatment. We have explained to him, that he is still our son, and we will always be there for him, he just will not live in our home.....just like his sister Brogan who is in NC, or his brother Brandon, who lives with another adoptive family. He seemed to understand this very well, and is ok with this transition.
Whew. In other news......next week will be so weird! My kid are all heading in different directions! Brittany leaves today for a mission trip with our church to Georgia. Tomorrow Rory, Meng and Toby are heading to their favorite summer camp, Camp CoCo! And Monday Keagan, Brianna, and Brownyn are heading to Camp One Way. So.....I will have only Daley at home with me all week!!!! Wow, crazy! Don't worry, I have lots of things planned. Mostly painting and cleaning. And a little date night with Dale as well!
Well, I have to get off this computer and get moving this morning. Thanks for checking in.
God bless!
Friday, June 27, 2014
God is so good!
Just a short note to proclaim how good God is! He continually shows me his glory, through my garden, through my kids, through baby birds hatching in the midst of a storm. All around me are signs of his goodness and his power. He is in control, and I have to always remember that....especially when my anxieties and worries kick in. It is wonderful to have a Father who knows just what I need, and just how to take care of me!
Thursday, June 26, 2014
My absolute JOY!
Our latest photo......all of the most amazing, beloved people in my life. I love them all so much. I cannot imagine what I could possibly have done for God to bless me so much!
Back row: Brianna, Keagan, Patrick, Brittany,Timothy, and Bronwyn
Middle Row: Rory, MengYan and Tobin
Front: Dale, Daley Faith, and me (Ann)
In the photos are Brian (who was hospitalized during this photo), and Wen and Wu, who aren't home with us yet......they are waiting in China!
Sunday, June 15, 2014
The Story of Brian
Hello friends. If you have followed my blog at all, you know about our struggles with Brian. We adopted Brian last year, as a very scared, very abused and neglected tween, who suffered from mental retardation, autism, PTSD, ADHD, and bi-polar disorder. His time with us has been more than challenging. But, we KNOW we felt God calling us to be his parents.
This week, Brian had another serious rage, and he attacked Dale at his therapy appointment, as well as at home. When Patrick and Brittany tried to calm him, he attacked them both as well. His rages continue to grow more volatile, more aggressive, and more dangerous. Brian is only 13, but he is 190#, 5"10, and very strong. When the police arrived, they escorted Brian to St. Mary's Hospital, for a psych evaluation. I thought it would be best for me to follow, since Brian's rages have been aimed at Dale lately. Not good. He rose up off the bed twice to come after me, which was very scary, since I was locked in the room with him. I am scared of him. The kids are scared of him. When he begins to rage, the kids run for cover, and Dale and I brace ourselves for the worst.
We are to the point of making choices for Brian's future. We were advised last month, that Brian is a danger to others, and that he should be placed in a residential treatment facility instead of bringing him back home. Everyone involved has serious concerns over Brian hurting one of the younger children. Especially since this has already happened several times in the past. But we just weren't ready for that hard move, and we elected to change his medications, and bring him back home. We now have come to the realization that he cannot come back home. The docs involved with Brian, feel he has schizophrenia, and must have 24hour treatment/care, in a facility that can keep him safe to himself and others. We have applied to several organizations who offer assistance to families needing to place a child in a residential treatment facility, but cannot afford it. We have been denied by every single one. Costs per year are about $87,000. So, what do we do?
We are meeting with all of the folks involved in Brian's care on Tuesday afternoon. We are also meeting with social workers from DCFS. We are planning to ask DCFS to take permanent custody of Brian, but allow us to continue our parental relationship with him. This is truly the only way we can find, that would get him the care he needs, and keep all of us safe. And it sucks. And I hate that word. But, it does.
So, you don't hear very often about the ugly side of adoption. The side where it doesn't go like you planned. The side where you wonder if you really did hear God asking you to adopt this child, and where you feel like a failure as a parent, when you cannot reach this child, no matter what you do. But....all that being said, I trust God. I don't know what the future holds for Brian, but I do know that I sat with Brian as Pastor Tim Crump led him to Christ. I watched him be baptized. I know that Brian wants to do the right thing, but this mental illness has ravaged him to the point where he cannot think rationally. So, I am putting Brian into God's hands, and I am trusting Him to take care of him, and to heal him, since I cannot. And I am trusting God to bring peace and joy back into my home, because it has been a dark place lately. And I am trusting God, that DCFS will understand our situation, and be willing to work with us, instead of condemn us. And I am trusting God, that you, my friends, will also try too understand, and not condemn us. This is so hard.
Blessings,
Ann
Saturday, June 7, 2014
Vacation!
We had such an amazing vacation! spent a week on Hilton Head Island, with my daughter, son-in-law, grandson, and Meng's BFF from China, and her amazing family! It was a much needed break from the normal McKinney craziness!
Brian is doing well, his behaviors are much improved, and now it is Daley's turn to give me fits! She has had a crazy amount of scary seizures this past few weeks, but hoping a new med will keep them down.
We have decided to enroll Keagan, Bronwyn, Brittany and Brianna in Decatur Christian School. We are excited and nervous! 14 years of homeschooling.......and now this huge change. Seems our life is full of changes lately!
Wen and Wu.......well, let's just say I am getting SO excited! Today I bought them each another outfit, and also washed the clothing that I have put back for them already. I need to do some decorating in their bedroom, to finish it up!
That's all I have time for today. Except to mention that today I turned FORTY EIGHT!
Man, that seems so old. How on earth has my life gone so fast? Friends, take time to do what is important! Love your family and friends, and serve our Lord. Get rid of time-wasters in your life. Life is too short to waste it!
God Bless!!
Brian is doing well, his behaviors are much improved, and now it is Daley's turn to give me fits! She has had a crazy amount of scary seizures this past few weeks, but hoping a new med will keep them down.
We have decided to enroll Keagan, Bronwyn, Brittany and Brianna in Decatur Christian School. We are excited and nervous! 14 years of homeschooling.......and now this huge change. Seems our life is full of changes lately!
Wen and Wu.......well, let's just say I am getting SO excited! Today I bought them each another outfit, and also washed the clothing that I have put back for them already. I need to do some decorating in their bedroom, to finish it up!
That's all I have time for today. Except to mention that today I turned FORTY EIGHT!
Man, that seems so old. How on earth has my life gone so fast? Friends, take time to do what is important! Love your family and friends, and serve our Lord. Get rid of time-wasters in your life. Life is too short to waste it!
God Bless!!
Tuesday, May 20, 2014
Summer is ALMOST here!
Hello friends!
Well, we have TWO days of school left! This has been a rough week....I think the kids think that summer vacation has already started! LOL We are leaving on Friday to head to Hilton Head Island, our favorite vacation spot in the entire world! We are meeting my daughter, son-in-law, and grandson there, as well as Meng's bff from China! It should be a GREAT week!
Our paperwork for Wen and Wu is moving right along. We got our USCIS (Immigration) paperwork ahead of schedule, and just today went the last dossier document to our agency. All of this will be put together, and sent to China on Friday! And then we wait for China to sent us the "Letter Seeking Confirmation". I am thinking we should be heading to China by September!
Brian is doing better. We had a very rough few weeks. Brian had an aggressive rage about 3 weeks ago, and spent quite a bit of time in a mental hospital. There were some very tense moments, when we questioned our parenting abilities, and the safety of our family, during his rages. But, he is home....and doing much better. We have been praying that God would heal him completely, or use medication to bring healing to his mind, which is ravaged by mental illness. I am hopeful that God has answered our prayers, and that we are through this dark time. He is a good boy....he is just confused, abused, and paranoid. He cannot just understand that we love him, and just want to help him! But, with God's help, I know this can work!
Timmy is back with us. Patrick graduates from MTI on June 14th! Danyne just graduated from ONU, and is heading to AZ, where she will be working on a Navajo reservation. Keagan, Britt, Brianna, and Bron are VERY happy to be almost done with school! We are considering a change for them next year, by placing them in a private Christian school. They are both excited and nervous about this idea. No decisions yet, still praying about it!
Toby, Rory, and Meng are LOVING our new trampoline~ What a great way to get some exercise! And Daley is growing like a weed, and absolutely LOVING her gravy and mashed potatoes!
And Dale's big news is his new job! He just accepted a position with DMH's neurosurgery department. He will be making more $, less call time, closer to home, and hopefully a little less stress. He begins on July 7. I am excited for him! He will literally be 6 minutes from home!
Well, I think that is all the updates for now. Oh, except that I forgot that my baby sister has caught the adoption bug! She and her hub, Erech, are hosting a Chinese orphan, "Roy" for a month over the summer. And they are already asking about the adoption process! God is good!
Blessings to you all!
Enjoy these new pics!
Well, we have TWO days of school left! This has been a rough week....I think the kids think that summer vacation has already started! LOL We are leaving on Friday to head to Hilton Head Island, our favorite vacation spot in the entire world! We are meeting my daughter, son-in-law, and grandson there, as well as Meng's bff from China! It should be a GREAT week!
Our paperwork for Wen and Wu is moving right along. We got our USCIS (Immigration) paperwork ahead of schedule, and just today went the last dossier document to our agency. All of this will be put together, and sent to China on Friday! And then we wait for China to sent us the "Letter Seeking Confirmation". I am thinking we should be heading to China by September!
Brian is doing better. We had a very rough few weeks. Brian had an aggressive rage about 3 weeks ago, and spent quite a bit of time in a mental hospital. There were some very tense moments, when we questioned our parenting abilities, and the safety of our family, during his rages. But, he is home....and doing much better. We have been praying that God would heal him completely, or use medication to bring healing to his mind, which is ravaged by mental illness. I am hopeful that God has answered our prayers, and that we are through this dark time. He is a good boy....he is just confused, abused, and paranoid. He cannot just understand that we love him, and just want to help him! But, with God's help, I know this can work!
Timmy is back with us. Patrick graduates from MTI on June 14th! Danyne just graduated from ONU, and is heading to AZ, where she will be working on a Navajo reservation. Keagan, Britt, Brianna, and Bron are VERY happy to be almost done with school! We are considering a change for them next year, by placing them in a private Christian school. They are both excited and nervous about this idea. No decisions yet, still praying about it!
Toby, Rory, and Meng are LOVING our new trampoline~ What a great way to get some exercise! And Daley is growing like a weed, and absolutely LOVING her gravy and mashed potatoes!
And Dale's big news is his new job! He just accepted a position with DMH's neurosurgery department. He will be making more $, less call time, closer to home, and hopefully a little less stress. He begins on July 7. I am excited for him! He will literally be 6 minutes from home!
Well, I think that is all the updates for now. Oh, except that I forgot that my baby sister has caught the adoption bug! She and her hub, Erech, are hosting a Chinese orphan, "Roy" for a month over the summer. And they are already asking about the adoption process! God is good!
Blessings to you all!
Enjoy these new pics!
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